I am not an attractive man and it doesn’t help that I am short (5’3”) with a below average penis. I was in my late twenties before I finally had my first date and at thirty-five, I am still a virgin, as a refuse to sleep with escorts. I am not suicidal or depressed, but I would like to figure out how to accept my situation and move on. How do I accept that I will be alone for the rest of my life?
First, you don’t have to be alone for the rest of your life, unless that is what you truly want. Believe it or not, there are people out there who will love you for the true you.
You are not your body. You are not your looks.
I’m proud of you for taking a hard look in the mirror and accepting the truth of how difficult romantic relationships are for you. That is not easy! It seems that a lot of what hinders you are factors that are out of your control.
You have allowed yourself to move on with what you have and who you are physically. Now, it is time to decide what you want from life.
You don’t want to be alone! You need to stop saving yourself from possible disappointment or rejection.
If you decide to accept being alone for the rest of your life, you’re simply giving up. You need to find your self-worth and confidence in who you truly are. Love yourself enough to move past this. You are just wrong if you think love is out of your reach because of your physical makeup. Just like people that think aliens aren’t real…we can’t prove it yet, but the numbers say the probability is virtually guaranteed. I think your chances of finding a happy, rewarding relationship are virtually guaranteed too, but you must be realistic, honest, positive, and confident.
I understand saying “be confident” is much easier than actually doing it, but fake it until you make it. If you stop portraying your body as who you are, potential lady suitors will follow your lead.
She is out there. Maybe she is an inch shorter or wider, maybe she loves coffee and you despise it, maybe she is blonde and you only wanted to love a brunette… I do not know. The point is, your way of thinking is part of the problem.
YOU DESERVE LOVE just like everyone else and there is a someone special out there meant just for you, you should make an enormous effort to find her.
Finding love isn’t easy, but you still have to try.
You have to put yourself out there knowing you could get hurt time and time again… until eventually, you don’t. This is just how it works.
Work on your appearance. Stay in shape. Maybe, if finances allow, invest in an image consultant who can help with your overall style. Don’t wear platforms in your shoes or doing anything misleading or extreme.
When it comes to the bedroom, make use of toys and everything else on your body. Become a damn “spider monkey” in bed. Learn things she has never heard of and surprise the hell out of her. She will remember your penis is smaller than she would like perhaps, sure. She will also remember the crazy, freaky, new, exciting sexual experience you gave her that no one else ever has. Satisfying your lover in the bedroom doesn’t solely rely on penis size, never has. Some women can’t climax from intercourse alone in the first place.
For now, get your attitude right and think only confident thoughts. Never consider quitting or being alone. Focus only on presenting your best self.
Chin up! You have work to do!
P.S. I never do this on JAM, but I suggest using my workbook to help you analyze who may be a great match for you. Here is a link to the workbook. Click Here