Self-Love: Take Better Care of Us!

I am dangerously close to being 40 years old, so I started washing my face!

The past couple of years have been trying ones. As I turn 38, I’m starting to realize I need to make some “late in the game” changes.

It’s funny… I’m a confident gal both inside and out. I have a great family and I obviously love my job. “First world” complaints are really all I have. However, as 38 years old gets closer, I am freaking out.

Life might be good, but damn it’s hard to get old.

Somewhere over the years, I forgot to love and care for myself. I didn’t really forget, more like didn’t make it a priority. I gave minimal effort to what I looked like and how well I took care of myself: emotionally, physically, and mentally.

I wouldn’t call this “letting myself go,” but it was close.

Now more than ever, I regret letting those bad habits continue for so long. I could blame school, work, kids, my husband, and so on. But, placing blame and making excuse helps no one.

I did this to myself and only I can fix it. Ugh…

So… Where do I start? How do I regain control?

As a relationship expert, I work with people on every aspect of their life. From love and sex to business and parenthood. I confidently lead others to find their best possible self, but how do I take my own advice?

First things first, I washed my face. This may seem weird to you, but I’ve really never bothered with it before.

So now I wash my face, daily. It’s a small thing. I’m sure you’re laughing at me, but this has taken some serious effort on my part. I actually had to set an alarm for the first two weeks as a reminder.

So, one baby step towards self-improvement. Check!

Next, I started back to the gym. I freaking hate the gym. I have exercised a bit here and there because my husband kept on talking about being healthy and some other stuff. I don’t really know. I didn’t pay much attention.

This is no longer a baby step. I have been working out five days a week for over a month now. I have also given up sugar, my only true love… sorry kids.

I’m now making actual lifestyle changes because I need to love me more. I need to be stronger and healthier and happier for me. There is no excuse not to be my best possible self. It’s all about effort. There is enough time if you make it happen.

This is my new way of life. It keeps me balanced and centered. Going to the gym in the morning helps me to start my day feeling like I’ve accomplished something for me.

For those that are unaware, I am not a moderate person. It’s all or nothing for me, no matter what. So, beyond the changes already mentioned, I focused in on smaller bad habits as well, like biting my nails.

Over the next few months, I plan to continue my journey to a happier and healthier me. I’ll learn to love me again.

If you don’t love yourself, how can you love someone else?

Self-love is very important. When you have a strong sense of who you are and your own value, you’re able to have healthier and happier relationships in your life.

Loving yourself and having self-worth is an endless process which takes effort just like any relationship. Loving yourself is a choice you make every single day. Loving yourself must be a way of life. I am working towards taking care of myself as a new habit. Loving me for me, all day, every day, because I should and I can.

What’s the point?

If you have “let yourself go,” or simply stopped making sure your needs are taken care of… for whatever reasons, make changes now!

Good luck and stay mentally tough.

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